Actually, the question is, “How smart do others think you are?” How to Look
Smarter was a recent article in the WSJ. The fascinating premise is that no matter how smart you may be, behaving in certain ways can cause others to
perceive you as not so smart. It’s often
when people are trying to look smart that their actions and words backfire.
I especially liked the point that using big words doesn’t make people
think you’re smart: “…positive first impressions may be shattered, however, as
soon as pretentious language starts interfering with others’ ability to
understand and communicate with you. People who embellish their writing with
long, complicated words are seen as less intelligent by readers, according to a
2006 study in Applied Cognitive Psychology.”
As a communications professional in a large corporation, I have long
advocated the use of what I call “kitchen English.” When you’re trying to explain a point, either
in writing or in a conversation, you want the audience to understand you
easily. You don’t want them struggling
to figure out what you mean or thinking you're unnecessarily wordy, confusing
or uppity.
When I read the example of someone repeatedly using the word ubiquitous
because they’d just learned it, I laughed aloud and was reminded of one of my
college English professors crossing through the word utilize on my paper and writing, “why not simply say use?” Perhaps that’s what started me on
my path to promoting kitchen English.
It’s not that I don’t enjoy learning new words and using them in
scrabble and WWF; I just don’t sprinkle them throughout my daily conversations
either at work or socially. I have a subscription to A Word a Day and enjoy their emails
with intriguing words and quotes. And I routinely refer to myself as a word
nerd and grammar geek, but that’s more about being interested in words, keeping
a dictionary handy and wanting to use words properly, not about wanting to show
off.
Does it tickle me when a friend emails or calls me to ask about a
word? Well yes, but honestly if you read
as many books as I do and you taught high school English in a past life as I
did, you ought to know more words than the average bear. I still laugh when I think about the phone
call I got one evening from a friend laughing with her husband and another
friend. She said they were debating how
to conjugate the word spin, and she
just knew I’d have the answer. I don’t
know that I’d ever conjugated the word before, but I compared it to drink,
drank, drunk and so came up with the right answer—spin, span, have spun.
What other behaviors should you avoid if you want to appear smart?
Talking too much, too loudly or trying to look serious. Once you nail how to
converse more clearly and confidently and how to engage others by nodding,
asking them questions and letting them get a word in edgewise, your natural
intelligence can shine through.
There are, however, still some age-old stereotypes about intelligence.
Yup, wearing glasses or having a middle initial in your name will make folks
initially perceive you as intelligent.
Just don’t blow that first impression by over talking, using big words
or trying to refrain from gesturing with your hands and arms. The good news for me is I use my middle
initial so that my maiden name isn’t lost, I have no choice but to wear
cheaters, I use kitchen English and I talk with my hands. That should translate
into folks thinking I’m pretty darned smart, at least when they first meet
me. Let’s hope it extends beyond that.
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